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Book Review: Break Through by Tim Clinton and Pat Springer

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Everybody has encountered unhealthy relationships at one time or another, however some people become entrenched in a lifestyle of unhealthy relationships, enmeshment or co-dependent behavior and that’s what this book is all about.  Some relationships will never change until one or both people have a “Break Through” and learn what the subtitle says When to Give In, How to Push Back.


The authors address such things as rescuing others, justifying bad behavior, keeping secrets, tolerating abuse, the need to control others, manipulative behaviors, persistent outbursts of anger, enabling addiction, making excuses, and wrongfully accepting blame.


Written from a Christian perspective, this book will be a welcome relief for those who desire emotional freedom and respect in all their relationships.  It is loaded with lots of real life examples to help you pinpoint the root issue and provides specifics of how to begin relating to others from a position of freedom and love.

Here are some of my favorite quotes from this book:

“In a family environment, treating people with respect, telling the truth and being responsible for our choices creates a positive, wholesome atmosphere where everyone can relax, enjoy each other and learn from failures.”

“Take the necessary steps to restore God to his rightful place in your heart – and then expect a liberating shift, a ripple effect in the health of all your other relationships.”

“The sin of enmeshment is putting a person in the wrong place on the throne of our lives ­– the place where only God resides.”

“Whether we idolize a relationship, a substance, or a behavior, it imprisons us.  Binds us.  Robs us.  It draws us in more by the day.  But despite the thrill or the high, it never satisfies our soul.”

“Freedom comes only when we are overwhelmed by the magnificent love of God – when we invite the living God to come alive in our hearts and surround us with his healing love.”

“The problem and the solution are no longer ‘out there’ but ‘in here’.  Instead of blaming others for our heartaches, we take responsibility for our new choices.”

“Living our best life is about learning to love well.  We may blame our past, our parents, or our ex, but the key to our future lies with us, not them.”

“When we look at the life of Jesus, we see him as the epitome of wise trust in the ways he related to people, He shrewdly observed people; he spoke the truth no matter how people might react; he offered relationship without manipulation.”

The unhealthy people you’ve been relating to might not want you to break through to your freedom and may even accuse you of being heartless, cruel, selfish and perhaps try to shame you or bribe you into remaining the same.  God will help you each step of the way, but be prepared to stand your ground and enlist outside help or support if needed to help you stay on track.

The bottom line is that healthy relationships happen when your identity is rooted in Christ’s love, grace and truth.  Relating to yourself in a healthy manner is the first step to freedom and is comes from seeing yourself the way God sees you!

If you feel stuck in a relationship or are tired of the repetitive craziness that you’ve been enduring, Break Through: When to Give In, How to Push Back will help you identify what the relationship issue is and how you can get off the hamster wheel of emotional turmoil.  You can purchase your own copy of it here on amazon.

By way of disclosure: I received a free review copy of “Break Through: When to Give In, How to Push Back” by Tim Clinton and Pat Springer in exchange for writing a review—good, bad, or otherwise.

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