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Do You Think I’m Beautiful?

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Do You Think I'm Beautiful

At first glance it could be easy to assume that this is a question only asked by women, but I want to suggest that it is a question that is asked by men as well.  Behind this surface question lays a much deeper question that everyone asks at various points in their lives.  And the real question is far more than skin deep, even beautiful svelte women and handsome muscular men ask this question.

So what’s the real question?

I believe the real question people really want answered is:  Do you think I am important, valuable and loveable?  It is rooted in a desire to belong and feel significant.  We are all aware of our own shortcomings, weaknesses and failures.  And when we look at ourselves in the mirror we see those in the image reflected back at us.

Significance can seem to be an elusive thing.  Many have tried to gain it through career choice, social positioning, finances, physical appearance, expensive clothes, extravagant toys and those little pick me ups.  Those who do often learn how painfully thin the layer of ice is that they skate upon when their significance is built on such unstable things.  A change in company structure, physical illness or reversal of fortunes reveals very quickly the façade upon which their identity and significance was structured and when it comes tumbling down the emptiness can settle in fast and hard.

Spiritual Perspective:  Another mistaken belief is that significance comes through focusing on self-interest and the pursuit of pleasure.  However King Solomon, who was considered to be endowed with the most wisdom and wealth of any king there has ever been, declared after pursuing much learning and pleasure, that in the end it was all vanity and chasing after the wind.   His conclusion was that people should enjoy their life, their food, and their work and be thankful for their blessings of good health, family and friendship.  In other words, just LIVE.

So what is it about living that makes any man or woman significant?  Well because God says YOU ARE:

Loveable – The gospel of John reveals God’s great love for us over and over.

Important – Psalm 139:13 He knew you before you were born; your life has purpose.

Valuable – Matthew 6:26 God is intimately acquainted with us and cares for us.

Enjoyable – John 15:15 He takes pleasure in you and calls you his friend.

Real significance doesn’t involve striving, positioning or earning favor.  Financial standing and education aren’t required for significance.  There is a wonderful freedom and beauty in knowing and living as a person of value.  Once you understand this you are free to value others because they no longer pose a threat to you and your significance.  Some of the most beautiful people I know are the ones who are free to be who they are without comparing, competing or complaining.

Truth For Your Life:  In what ways have the things you had hoped would make you feel significant have left you feeling empty and disappointed?  What will it take to convince you of your significance to God?  How you have grown and recognized your own true value and significance?

Make your life count now:  If you’re ready to start living a life of real significance, I can help you.  As your life coach I am the objective person who believes in you so that you can believe in yourself and this is how I serve my clients best!  I have several coaching packages to help you get on the right track.  Don’t put it off any longer, simply click here to discover which option is the best fit for you.

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9 Responses to Do You Think I’m Beautiful?
  1. Yolanda Williams
    March 19, 2010 | 9:49 am

    This is so right on and well put. I really enjoyed this reading!

    • Bridget Haymond
      March 19, 2010 | 10:02 am

      Yolanda, I’m glad you enjoyed it. Thanks so much for visiting!

  2. Steve-Personal Succe
    March 12, 2010 | 9:58 pm

    Bridget, thanks for the beautiful article on Biblical beauty. Beauty is so fleeting when based on the external. It truly does come down to the beauty that God has bestowed upon us, and it ends up pointing back to our Beautiful One.

    • Bridget Haymond
      March 12, 2010 | 10:11 pm

      Good point Steve – everything comes full circle when we do things God’s way!

  3. janemyatt
    March 11, 2010 | 5:45 pm

    Outstanding! Thanks so much for sharing this.

  4. Lee Wise
    March 11, 2010 | 12:15 pm

    — General Comments —

    I appreciated the comments made that I have in quotes below: each pointing toward the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ in our lives and what it can mean to us relative to how we think of ourselves and process life from a perspective of inner freedom and gracious thanksgiving.  

    “There is a wonderful freedom and beauty in knowing and living as a person of value…Some of the most beautiful people I know are the ones who are free to be who they are without comparing, competing or complaining.”

    — Discouragement, Frustration and The Beauty of Grace —

    Of course I can feel discouraged and frustrated with life, but in the beauty of grace I can seek and accept forgiveness as needed, realign my thinking according to God’s truth, and gratefully move forward — if only inch by for that particular time period.  

    — On The Personal Side —

    Personally speaking, understanding the unchanging love of the Lord for me has meant being able to affirm that truth not on the basis of how I may feel at the moment — or whether or not I have failed in some area of my thinking or acting — but on the basis of what he has said.  After all, I was not drawn to him because I was the greatest success on earth in recent centuries, lol.   I came because he reached out to someone who hadn’t cut in relative to the standards that really matter (His) and brought me into his family.  The cross said — and says — much concerning whether or not the most important Person in the universe thinks I am valuable.  Love accepted and affirmed can carry us over the beautiful and rugged terrains of our life journeys.  

    — Thanks! —

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts and may the Lord bless you as you continue being a voice for positive living in our world.  

    • Bridget Haymond
      March 11, 2010 | 7:31 pm

      Thanks for sharing such great personal insights Lee. I hope everyone will take time to read your comments!

  5. ChristianRep
    March 11, 2010 | 2:42 am

    Exceptionally explained! Very good insight, and wise council!

    • Bridget Haymond
      March 11, 2010 | 7:22 pm

      Thanks for visiting and commenting Brett, and so glad you enjoyed the post!