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Making Time to Really Listen

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In the busyness of life how often do we conduct our everyday transactions without really making eye contact or truly listening to those who are assisting us?  How often do you hear the first part of what someone is saying and immediately assume you know the rest of what they are going to say, allowing yourself to checkout mentally?  In the busyness of life we all have been guilty of not giving people our full attention at one time or another.


As our society becomes more distracted, we all become more disconnected and our relationships suffer as a result.  And people are increasingly becoming lonely and left feeling devalued in the process. With all the advancements in modern technology people today are lonelier than ever.  The missing key is active listening.  The following marks active listening:

Prioritizes other people by giving them our full attention.

Valuing what they have to say.

Curiosity will cause us to ask questions and not assume.

Intentionally puts our agenda on hold in order to truly hear others.

Even within families, parents are so busy that they hustle and bustle without really hearing what their spouse and children are saying.  It is important to really reconnect with our family by having a designated time for conversation and meaningful discussion.  This can take place at the dinner table, but everyone must agree to honor dinnertime, clear the calendar and show up.  It can also take place is the car by turning off the radio and the DVD player in order to create the environment where meaningful conversation and connection can take place.

Spiritual Perspective:  Reading through the book of Proverbs gives us a clear indication of the value of listening!  Time and again the wise are commended for listening to parents, counselors and mentors for their wisdom.  If you’re busy assuming or allowing yourself to be distracted you might just miss out on some real nuggets of gold as well as some great relationships.  In the end, not truly listening will hurt you as much as it does others.

Honor God and nourish great relationships with others by making the most of your life.  Gain awareness of your gifts and strengths, and get on the right path for your life – find out how now!

Truth For Your Life:  How has the busyness of life robbed you of the richness of truly connecting with those you value most?  In what ways do you plan to employ your listening skills to create connection with others?  How will you take time to listen lets others know you really appreciate and care about them?

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13 Responses to Making Time to Really Listen
  1. Bridget Haymond
    May 27, 2010 | 9:53 pm

    Thanks Bridget and Christopher, I'm so glad you both stopped by!

  2. Bridget Willard
    May 27, 2010 | 2:37 pm

    I love it!

  3. Christopher
    May 27, 2010 | 12:14 pm

    Invest in your interlocutor and your investment will be reflected

  4. Julie Walraven | Res
    May 26, 2010 | 11:08 pm

    Thank you, Bridget! Even though I just wrote about listening and hearing, it is something that needs a constant reminder. Every interaction doesn't start with people who are happy and it is a good reminder that we set the stage both by our attitude and our response to communication. It takes work!

    • Bridget Haymond
      May 27, 2010 | 5:17 am

      You make a great point Julie – hearing is a physical function, but listening is an intellectual and emotional choice to hear and respond on a deeper level.

      Thanks for sharing!

  5. Connie V
    May 26, 2010 | 9:38 pm

    I loved it!! life sometimes gets like fast track this reminded me to focus on the person talking to u always 1st. You Rock ur awesome :).

    • Bridget Haymond
      May 26, 2010 | 10:04 pm

      Thanks visiting Connie. You are always so thoughtful to share your heart!

  6. ekards
    May 26, 2010 | 6:32 pm

    David and I connect at dinner. Going out to dinner helps eliminate distractions. And I honor him by leaving my phone in the car.

    We have a commuter marriage right now and Skype has really helped me to talk to him without multi-tasking and becoming distracted in the conversation. When I can see him and he can see me, I'm less likely to try to accomplish 5 other things while we talk.

    It's always a challenge for me tho. My job is social media and there are so many communication tools at my disposal. I have to turn them off to communicate with God and with David.

    Thanks for blogging about this, Bridget. I need constant reminders.

    • Bridget Haymond
      May 26, 2010 | 9:37 pm

      It sounds like you and your husband have some good safeguards in place to keep your conversation focused and free from distractions. Turning off our electronic devices really does honor those whom we are with.

      So glad you stopped by Stacey!

  7. Bill Bliss
    May 26, 2010 | 5:12 pm

    Hi Bridget,

    What a nice reminder of something I need to always improve on. One of my favorite proverbs in this area is 18:13 from the ESV "Spouting off before listening to the facts is both shameful and foolish." I use this regularly with a highly impatient coaching client of mine and it is very effective…for the moment!


    • Bridget Haymond
      May 26, 2010 | 5:32 pm

      I love that translation for this verse! Thanks so much for sharing Bill.

  8. marriagecoach1
    May 26, 2010 | 4:32 pm

    Hey Bridget
    Kudos on a great post.

    Blessings on you and yours
    John Wilder